From my point of view something that brings out the worst in us sounds like a really big part of the issue.

We’ve always been modified by our situations, so why not create better situations rather than lamenting that we don’t have the grit to break through whatever toxic society we find ourselves graphed onto?

Sorry I know I’m putting a lot on your comment that I know you didn’t mean, but I see this kind of unintentional crypto doomerism a lot. I think it holds people to an unhealthy standard.

Yeah decentralization and open source software and protocols being big ones. It means that if the “main” culture turns reactionary, that we’re not trapped in the same spaces as the shithead just because we share a platform.

There could absolutely be two main fediverses, with no changes to the technology.

Funny old world, isn’t it? It sounds like you’re at an inflection point in your life. You’ve got all your data, and now you just have to make a decision. From my perspective the better decision seems obvious, hence why I felt compelled to offer my unsolicited opinion.

It’s funny that you mention you and your Wife are from ex-Soviet countries — maybe this is a stereotype, but in my personal experience the drive to excel and chase wealth seems to really take root in some ex-Soviet people or their children, even the ones who have nostalgia for socialism.

Maybe it’s no more than the normal rate but the juxtaposition makes it stand out, though.

I wish you good luck in your decision!

I want to stay in my kitchen forever lol.

I’m fortunate to have had a great childhood full of love and community, but I don’t want to be a child, you know? I don’t want to go back to, like, a cocoon.

Maybe I’m reading into some of these comments, or maybe I just have a different nostalgia. Just leaving this comment for anyone else who’s a bit weirded out. 👋

It sounds like you’re comfortable enough to be debt free, but still chasing after something more, despite already having it right there in your backyard.

I don’t think you realize how little money you need in order to have a fulfilling life. You can live in the nice neighbourhood and take a low paying, stable job, be frugal, get good insurance, and enjoy the advantages of your class position.

Pardon me if this comes off as overly prescriptive or nihilistic.

It’s the difference between spending money to have your will enacted, and having your money taken by the people, for use of the commons.

The latter is a very dangerous precedent to set. You don’t want the people feeling like they can have their will enacted.