• ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    58·
    6 hours ago

    Just having a chill conversation with someone online.

    They tell me that they’ve had their heart broken in the past and they’re very sensitive.

    mfw I had no idea this was a date is this person completely bonkers

      • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        5·
        3 hours ago

        I would absolutely say something like that while freaking out - even though this is online and I’m not in any danger

  • spicy pancake@lemmy.zipEnglish
    105·
    7 hours ago

    > pretending to be a girl online so that i can get just a little attention from a human being for once
    > talking to this guy, seems really sweet and we have a bunch of common interests
    > mfw i actually start to really care about this guy
    > he alludes to abandonment issues in his past
    > ohno.jpg
    > panic, tell him i have to go to bed
    > try to go to bed but can’t sleep from guilt
    > can’t bring myself to message him the truth that i am a girlpretender attention whore
    > decide just blocking him is the least painful option for both of us
    am i a bad person?

    • Samsy@lemmy.ml
      172·
      7 hours ago

      I bet everyone has pretended to be the opposite sex online. Maybe just for the giggles. But anyone who does that all the time, straight to hell.

      • Farid@startrek.website
        2·
        1 hour ago

        That’s kind of a weird assumption. What qualifies as pretending? I don’t think I have ever done that.

        • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
          1·
          2 minutes ago

          I’m a woman on Lemmy with a gender-neutral username, which means I don’t have to try to “pretend” anything - people assume I’m a guy by default. Hell, it also happened back when I was on Reddit and used a female-coded username, which is even more confusing.

          I can only imagine the gender performances these guys are putting on if they’re able to easily convince others that they’re women. Some people apparently take “there are no women on the internet” literally and can’t seem to process when women appear online (in a non-porn context, at least. Which is really disheartening.) I’ve had people full-on argue with me that I couldn’t really be female, because I once posted a picture that included my hand and apparently it “wasn’t feminine enough.” (That’s what I get for keeping my nails short and disliking nail polish, I guess. Who knew even women’s hands are expecting to conform to rigid gender expectations?)

      • spicy pancake@lemmy.zipEnglish
        27·
        7 hours ago

        or straight to therapy and hopefully a trans supportive community haha (not that it would excuse catfishing)

        • Diurnambule@jlai.lu
          9·
          5 hours ago

          I try to not reveal my gender when speaking online. I don’t fell it pertinent and it is nice to be able to act which ever role you chose to at the moment.

  • Sanctus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    18·
    7 hours ago

    NGL I do not miss keeping up with that shit. Its such a drag. Yet somehow waking up and saying good morning to someone is the shit.